Something I have learned here....

brooke · **Posted:** Apr Fri 29, 2005 8:56 pm

Being in recovery from addiction, there have been many things I have learned about both life and myself. One of the major things I have learned is the concept of powerlessness over other peoples lives. This is something I have quite often struggled with in the past, and as a result, I have many times alienated those whom I love the most.
I have tried to push my opinion of what is best for somebody I care about on them so hard, and so feverishly, that these people would find no comfort in my yoke. My trying to tell loved ones what I think is best for them did no good and was wrong.
As a friend, as a family memeber, as an aquaintance, all I can do is offer my opinion and then be there for the person. I cannot change a persons mind if it is not ready or open to it, I cannot presume to know what is best for a person, I cannot try to control another persons life by shoving my perspective down they're throat until they can no longer breathe easy around me.
I say all of this for the following reason. There are people who visit this board with whom I could not accept my powerlessness. I presumed to know what was best for them, and would not just accept that they disagreed. I presumed to think I was right, and they were wrong, and would try to possess power over a situation that, quite frankly, I was powerless over and had no business trying to dictate.
Offering my advice and opinion is one thing, but shoving it down a loved one's throat, or anybody's throat, is just flat out wrong.
And for that I sincerely apologize to all of you out there to whom this applies. This has been one lesson out of many I've learned, and I am truly growing in accepting my powerlessness in other people's lives. I am learning to not be so self-centered as to assume that only I know what is best for a person.
I love you slugger, I wish you all the best and you are always in my thoughts.
Take care all...
Brooke.

kickin_astro · **Posted:** Apr Fri 29, 2005 9:45 pm

Brooke, glad to hear you are doing good and glad you did come back.

Nikki · **Posted:** Apr Sat 30, 2005 12:06 am

brooke wrote:

Being in recovery from addiction, there have been many things I have learned about both life and myself. One of the major things I have learned is the concept of powerlessness over other peoples lives. This is something I have quite often struggled with in the past, and as a result, I have many times alienated those whom I love the most.
I have tried to push my opinion of what is best for somebody I care about on them so hard, and so feverishly, that these people would find no comfort in my yoke. My trying to tell loved ones what I think is best for them did no good and was wrong.
As a friend, as a family memeber, as an aquaintance, all I can do is offer my opinion and then be there for the person. I cannot change a persons mind if it is not ready or open to it, I cannot presume to know what is best for a person, I cannot try to control another persons life by shoving my perspective down they're throat until they can no longer breathe easy around me.
I say all of this for the following reason. There are people who visit this board with whom I could not accept my powerlessness. I presumed to know what was best for them, and would not just accept that they disagreed. I presumed to think I was right, and they were wrong, and would try to possess power over a situation that, quite frankly, I was powerless over and had no business trying to dictate.
Offering my advice and opinion is one thing, but shoving it down a loved one's throat, or anybody's throat, is just flat out wrong.
And for that I sincerely apologize to all of you out there to whom this applies. This has been one lesson out of many I've learned, and I am truly growing in accepting my powerlessness in other people's lives. I am learning to not be so self-centered as to assume that only I know what is best for a person.
I love you slugger, I wish you all the best and you are always in my thoughts.
Take care all...
Brooke.

Brooke....you go girl! That took alot for anyone to say and I thought i was a bleeding heart!

We've talked before, when Cailin was involved and I don't know if you remember or not....but I am here if you ever need anyone outside the box.

I'm a pretty loyal friend.

Glad to hear everything is coming full circle for you.

brooke · **Posted:** Apr Sat 30, 2005 11:37 am

thanks astro, nikki...
nikki, i do not recall talking to you, for which i apologize, i have a somewhat shabby memory sometimes.
thank you for you're response though. my post was long overdue.
take care all...
brooke.

docoldsotherhalf · **Posted:** May Mon 02, 2005 2:59 pm

You are a strong woman and I know that your friends are going to appreciate your acceptance and understanding for what it is! You take care of yourself and try stopping around the site more often!

brooke · **Posted:** May Sat 07, 2005 10:30 am

thank you for that reply

BBnova1fan · **Posted:** May Sat 07, 2005 11:01 am

Good Morning Brooke... Hope everything is going well for you...

brooke · **Posted:** May Sat 07, 2005 2:04 pm

going well, can't complain.....well, i could complain, but that would be of no use, right? :lol:

no, really, things are going very well all things considered, thanks.

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