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Oh boy. Good luck Cailin. But here is what I would do. First off and I know it is hard, DON'T OVER REACT YET!!!!!! Try to talk to her about it and get her to explain what she meant. I purposely do not offer info to my kids for them to tell me back. hear it in her words. Let her explain what she means. From that convo, I would go from there. Did I mention DO NOT OVER REACT!!! Take a deep breath and count to 8 billion!!! Hey, not all us guys are bad!!!!! And lets face it, there are some wicked girls out there!!!!

Chill for a second Cailin. All is not lost, beleive me. First off appogize to her for loosing it. Second, you need to have a heart to heart with her. Find out what she know with out grilling her. If the lines seemed shut, do you damdest to open them up. That is not a good age to keep shut up. She will be experienceing things in the next few years and you have to be there for her. So , very very very very very important, line of comunication. So number 1, cool down. #2 keep cool, this will make an impression either way it goes. And you want it to go good, correct??? #3 fiind out what she knows and what she ment by that. If the lines of communication are not that great this may take some time to open. Subjects such as this are the hardest for kids to talkt to there parent about. Been there, done that. Tell her her feelings, if she has them are natural feelings and everyone has them. Except Monty!! I suspect she is talking like the big people talk. Thats all. Now would probably a good time to start opening up (talking) on the birds and the bee's. She doesn't need to know everthing but now would be a good time to start. Let her know that what she wrote was inappropriate for her age. Tell her words have meanings and to not use words that she does not fully undersatnd. Give her the biggest hug you have ever given her before and tell her what she means to you. All will be well, I garantee it.

Cailin, you should have taken my advice a few weeks ago and locked her in a cage. Didn't I tell ya she was too cute to leave out in the real world??? J/K

Kevin is right, you need to calm down and have a heart to heart with her. You would be amazed on how much a 9 YO really knows. But it is up to you to teach her right from wrong. Because if you dont, little Robby will, and Im sure you don't want that. Marissa respects your opinion and facts about life even though she may not show it at times. Shoot take her out for an ice cream and talk to her. Maybe she will open up to you before you even say a word.. If that don't work give her a shot of whiskey.. That always works to get the truth out..LOL J/K again...

monty you know im havin a melt down about this ,and ya no what my good friend brooke responce was ,,, OH IS THAT IT I THOUGHT U WERE GONNA SAY IT WAS ALOT WORSE THAN THIS .!!!!!!!!
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lol....the reason i said that was....when i saw the look of horror on your face and heard the sound of fear in your voice when telling me of the letter, i was expecting a monty type love letter, full of sexual innuendo and commentary.
when you told me that the letter only stated " i like you" "i want to get with you", my first reaction was, wow, thats not that bad...
when i was in school, i recall kids saying "i want to get with you" in the same context as "will you be my boyfriend"," do you want to date me", so on and so forth...the term "get with me" wasn't really a sexual one, it was more of a, "hey, i dig you, do you dig me, wanna get together over juicy juice and fruit rollups?" kind of thing.
now, i will admit that although i find the letter to be a little more harmless than you do, perhaps if i had kids and it was one of them who had written that same letter, i would have reacted closer to you're scale. i don't know what it's like (nor am i in a rush) to find a letter like that from your little girl, so i imagine that played alot into my lack of reaction...maybe that and also the fact that i may have gotten started a little early myself writing those sort of letters, lol...
anyway, good advice kevin and monty...this definately is a good opportunity to talk to marissa and see where she is at with the birds and the bees....hang in there slugger, she's still old enough where you can confine her to a room if all else fails, lol!
(some may say i'm no help, i say, help comes in many forms)