Well as a very shy person I wouldn't know what to do either...
But if I was not so shy I would just talk to her as a person. Not try to hit on her and just tell her my name. I would then small talk her a little and excuse myself to the bathroom. When coming out of the bathroom, if she is still there waiting for me, Im in.. If not I make sure I go find another hoochie and make sure she sees this. This will usually make her jealous that she didnt even phaze you. Now if the night comes around and nothing is found, I find a 10 to 2'er and take her home for the night... Now if she is there, you ask her to dance. Go out and just look into her eyes and see what they are telling you. If they say "come closer" you do.. If they say this is perfect.. you finish that dance and sit down. Then do the test.. Little jokes and touching on the knees as you are laughing with her. Remember she may think shes funny also and you have to laugh no matter how bad the jokes are. Its all part of the game... After a few dance, drinks and 60 minutes you ask her if she would like to go get something to eat. When she gets into the car, you make a small move for a kiss. If she follows keep it going. If not, kick her ass outta the car because it means you wont be getting any. This will still give you enough time to go back into the bar and find a 10 to 2'er.. Otherwise if all works you will have breakfast cooked for you with fresh OJ in bed forst thing in the AM with her wearing your boxers and t-shirt...
Remember this is only what I would imagine would work. I have never put this to the test so I really dont know....